Sunday, March 18, 2012

Should I have an opinion about others?

Most of us has a habit to judge people, to have good or bad opinions about others. We put people in different categories. We can not accept the person as he is. We think we should put a label on him to understand him. We form ideas about people like, "He is cunning", "He is manipulative", "He is bad", He is orthodox" etc. And our ideas about that person are more important to us than the real person.

Once we form an idea about a person we can not understand him. Because our idea about that person is static but that person is dynamic. He is constantly changing. And we can not judge a person because what he did in a particular situation, whether it is right or wrong, we can not decide.

It is very important to look at people or situations with a fresh mind because things are changing. People are changing, situations are changing. It is a great mistake to have fixed opinions about others. But it gives a kind of pleasure to our ego. Our ego get pleasure by criticizing and labeling others. Ego wants to show people down, to dominate others. Ego wants to feel superior then others.

When you say that, "I know this person" then it is not the truth. You know that person up to certain point. You don't know everything about him. You must understand this. Even if you are living with a person for many many years then also you don't know everything about that person. You know only few things. What he do behind you or how he behave when he is alone you don't know.

Perhaps you lave your father and he is very kind and loving with you but you don't know how he behaves with his juniors in the office and what is the opinion of his boss about him. So your opinion is only a partial truth about someone. You must understand that you can never have total knowledge about someone so your opinion have no validity at all. 

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