Somebody hurt me and I want to take revenge, I want to balance his act by teaching him a lesson. History of humanity is full of revenges and wars. Everybody takes revenge at some point in life. We are like a button which can be pushed by anyone and we burst into anger and violence. It is conditioned deeply into the human brain, it is a mechanical response. It is a survival instinct. Is it necessary? Is it necessary to hurt someone back who hurt you? Does it proves that you are stronger?
We have also taught by religions that we should forgive. Mind gets confused. If you react then you feel guilty and if you forgive you feel week. But if you really look into the problem deeply then most probably you will not strike back, because the person who hurt you is not intelligent. He is unconscious. He is behaving like a stupid. To react mechanically to his stupid act is also stupidity.
If you see this deeply then you will not react back, you will not take revenge and you will not forgive the person. You will simply stop from behaving like a stupid. To react back or to forgive both are mechanical responses. To look into the things deeply is intelligence. When you act through intelligence there is no conflict. Then you are not confused whether I should forgive this man or take revenge. You just see that he behaved like a silly and you move on.
When there is a desire to take revenge then the other person is pushing your button, then you are not master. You are his slave. Sometimes we think if I don't teach this person a lesson then people will think that I'm a weak man, I don't have confidence. I have to prove that I'm a confident man. I'm a strong man. Now not only this man who hurt you is pushing your button but the whole society is pushing your button. Don't behave like a slave. Think, look wisely into the matter and then act.
We never forgive anyone whole heatedly. If we could forgive people whole heatedly then there is no problem. Then you are a saint. But if you are not a saint then use your intelligence. Don't act like a robot. To take revenge is a survival instinct but there are many things which are more valuable in life. If you use your intelligence and have patience before reacting mechanically then you will save much energy and you will never regrate in life.
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We have also taught by religions that we should forgive. Mind gets confused. If you react then you feel guilty and if you forgive you feel week. But if you really look into the problem deeply then most probably you will not strike back, because the person who hurt you is not intelligent. He is unconscious. He is behaving like a stupid. To react mechanically to his stupid act is also stupidity.
If you see this deeply then you will not react back, you will not take revenge and you will not forgive the person. You will simply stop from behaving like a stupid. To react back or to forgive both are mechanical responses. To look into the things deeply is intelligence. When you act through intelligence there is no conflict. Then you are not confused whether I should forgive this man or take revenge. You just see that he behaved like a silly and you move on.
When there is a desire to take revenge then the other person is pushing your button, then you are not master. You are his slave. Sometimes we think if I don't teach this person a lesson then people will think that I'm a weak man, I don't have confidence. I have to prove that I'm a confident man. I'm a strong man. Now not only this man who hurt you is pushing your button but the whole society is pushing your button. Don't behave like a slave. Think, look wisely into the matter and then act.
We never forgive anyone whole heatedly. If we could forgive people whole heatedly then there is no problem. Then you are a saint. But if you are not a saint then use your intelligence. Don't act like a robot. To take revenge is a survival instinct but there are many things which are more valuable in life. If you use your intelligence and have patience before reacting mechanically then you will save much energy and you will never regrate in life.
If you like this post or feel this is helpful for fellow travelers then please share it on Twitter, Facebook and Stumbleupon or any social bookmarking site which you use.
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